Thoughts on Stacy Peterson: Six years gone

Stacy Peterson, missing since 2007

Today is the anniversary of Stacy Peterson’s disappearance. In observance I am re-running a blog post from a year ago. Stacy Peterson is still much in the thoughts of those who knew her and they are still seeking answers about her whereabouts. If you have any information that can help this ongoing investigation, please contact the Illinois State Police.


Stacy Peterson was last heard from six years ago, today. On a lazy Sunday morning, she texted a friend that she wasn’t ready to get out of bed and go help with some painting and then…silence. No more texts, no phone calls, no email, no sightings of her since that moment.

Her sister, Cassandra Cales, had been with her the night before and was already nervous about Stacy’s well-being. She knew that Stacy wanted to divorce her police officer husband, Drew, but that she was afraid he wouldn’t let her go. Her neighbor, Sharon Bychowski, had seen her sitting on the curb and crying in the days prior to her disappearance and had been told that she thought she would not make it out alive. She had confided a terrible secret to at least three people in the weeks before–that her husband had killed his third wife and that she had provided him with an alibi.

Stacy thought that this information might buy her and her children an escape from Drew, but it may well have cost her her life instead.

During Drew Peterson’s murder trial I received a lot of emails from people–really great emails for the most part filled with support for this site as well as the Savios, the Cales, and the prosecutors. Of course there were a few nutty negative emails as well, but those were expected.

But beyond that, there were also a few troubling emails. These came from people who, although they believed Peterson was guilty of killing Kathleen Savio, had difficulty accepting the idea that Stacy knew about her murder but did nothing about it until three years later when she wanted out of her marriage. These emails were from the nicest people you could imagine, who believed that Peterson killed not only Kathleen but Stacy as well, and they asked about this facet of the case tentatively, obviously not comfortable sharing their thoughts in the comments sections of the blog.

One woman, hoping that someone might have the answer just asked:

“I hope you can answer a question for me. After Neil Schori’s testimony yesterday, I have to wonder why Stacy Peterson waited until August of 2007 to tell her secret? That’s almost 3 1/2 years after Kathleen’s death. Why did Stacy wait so long to speak up?”

Another person took a few paragraphs to get to the point and then finally came out with it:

“Shame on Stacy. I don’t think she had one ounce of self-esteem and had no way of knowing right from wrong…She raised Kathleen’s son’s knowing their dad killed her. That’s messed up.”

It’s true that Stacy was not always kind to Kathleen during the first part of their relationship and that she later kept Drew’s dark secret for three years. However, she was only a teenager when they met and was no doubt under a good deal of control by Drew, so I factor that in when I think about her behavior towards Kathleen. I admit with some discomfort that I do find Stacy culpable to a degree for protecting Drew and providing him with an alibi.

That said, I guess I don’t dwell on it or feel anger towards her at this point because although I learned those facts of the case very early on, they were so eclipsed by the transgressions of Peterson himself.

In our country you have the right to be tried for your crimes and judged by a jury of your peers. Stacy Peterson was robbed of that right while her husband received the full benefit of the legal system. In my opinion, Drew Peterson was Stacy’s self-appointed judge, jury and executioner and he meted out a death sentence not as a matter of justice, but in order to hide a crime of his own. I think someday it will be proven in court that he killed her out of cowardice and greed. No matter what she might have been charged with, the sentence would not have been to be murdered at the hands of someone who had sworn to love and protect her.

I never think “shame on Stacy” because she never benefited from her right to representation and never got a fair day in court. She was abruptly silenced and denied the chance to either explain her actions or to defend herself against the slanderous accusations that have been made by Peterson and his lawyers since her disappearance.

It’s especially galling when you think about the fact that while Drew Peterson has now been convicted of the murder of Kathleen Savio, he still has parental rights over Stacy’s children and can legally keep her family from spending time with them.

Even if you feel that Stacy Peterson deserved punitive measures for not speaking up about the murder sooner, I don’t think there are many who would say that she hasn’t paid the price ten times over and then some.

She didn’t deserve to be killed and her children didn’t deserve to be robbed of their mother.

I try to take my cue from the Savio family who have found it in their hearts to put aside any resentment and have stood by the Cales to work towards getting justice for both Stacy and Kathleen. If the only people in the world who have a legitimate reason to be angry have demonstrated that they can get over it, so can you.

And of course there’s only one appropriate question to ask today: Where is Stacy?

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14 thoughts on “Thoughts on Stacy Peterson: Six years gone

  1. Family Of Stacy Peterson Marks Six Year Anniversary Of Her Disappearance
    October 28, 2013 2:50 PM

    Six years ago today, Stacy Peterson disappeared from her home in Bolingbrook and her family is marking the anniversary.

    It is all very personal and very private. There are no public vigils for the family of Stacy Peterson as they mark six years since she vanished – the fourth wife of Drew Peterson.

    “We will always know that he was what happened to her,” said Pamela Bosco, the spokeswoman for Stacy Peterson’s family.

    Drew Peterson is in prison for the murder of his third wife Kathleen Savio and won’t be eligible for release until he’s in his 90s.

    “He should never be out again because we know now that another woman is going to be safe out there because that’s where he’s going to stay for the rest of his life.”

    Pamela Bosco says the family believes Stacy is dead, but they’re still hopeful they will learn what happened to her some day.

    Illinois State Police say there are no new leads in Stacy Peterson’s disappearance.

  2. Facs, God bless you for continuing to post and follow this case. The Drew Peterson story still has untold chapters, and Stacy Peterson’s disappearance will not lie silenced in the hundreds of pages of investigators’ folders forever.

  3. Facs, I totally agree with your comments about Stacy Peterson. She was a kid, a teenager, and Drew Peterson knew how to manipulate her and pull her into his devious world. Peterson was a predator. He “rewarded” Stacy for complying and used a young kid to harass and cause pain to Kathleen Savio. If he got her pregnant, she would be even more dependent on him. He’s a sick man and delighted in the power he had over people.

  4. I’m not letting Stacy off the hook for her actions, but I have a feeling that Kathleen’s death was a surreal moment for her. By accident, she started to put all of the pieces together when he was caught in the laundry room. I don’t think Drew ever intended for her to “really” know. Too risky for the new family life he was creating. In her end days, Stacy was trying to figure out how to escape and survive with her two children. She needed financial support to raise them, so similar to Kathleen’s thinking, she didn’t want to cause Drew job loss. (income loss) Stacy did demonstrate the need for the truth to come out in the end. What a horrible mess to find yourself in!

  5. I’m glad Cassandra is doing what she can to keep Stacy’s death in the public’s eye. It’s key in eventually reaching a resolution. Please let us know when the show airs.

  6. I really hold onto hope that Stacy’s remains will be found one day – maybe when Drew Peterson has exhausted his appeals.
    I’ll keep an eye out for the LIM show. You know my opinion about psychics but I’m still interested to see what she said and I would so love for Cassandra to have the answers she is seeking.

  7. Some more activity on the appeal:

    10/25/2013 Report of Proceedings 5-24-12 PREPARED BY MARCIE HAW PAGES 1-7
    10/31/2013 Appellant Signature Sheet & Copy of Record Sent by Cert Mail
    10/31/2013 Appellate Court Signature Sheet and Record Sent by Cert Mail

  8. From what I’ve read about the LIM, she does her best not to allow bad energy through on a reading. I have seen the show and she has brought up that a loved one was murdered, but it’s usually uplifting messages/ I hope Cassandra hears from her mom and two sisters. I’m sure she is frustrated over not being with Stacy Sunday morning, as well as not not yet locating her remains.
    Facs, I too, hope her remains will be recovered. The family deserves some closure.

  9. Six years ago for both the disappearance of Stacy Peterson and Lisa Stebic. I was thinking about the age of the children. Lisa’s kids are old enough to speak about what they remember. I wonder if Stacy’s two children have any flashes or images of that day in their memories?

  10. If you are wondering what occurred on May 24, 2012, this was when…

    … a motion to “limit electronic communication” was filed under seal… the state’s attorneys office was worried that too many conversations about the case were being handled via email and after standard work hours.

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